For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Indeed there is a time, and who is to say that any time is specific for one feeling... for one action or one thought? Many a time, many of these occur at once in the same individual and us as humans should never take time for granted and simply experience one event or one emotion, but embrace everything we can in the little time we have. When time is up, all that remains shall be regret... and unfortunately we're not the one to decide when the clock stops.
We should not only embrace and celebrate our own lives, but others and embrace relationships between each other... realize the impact we have on each other's lives and how not any one individual can live alone. With so little time, how do we find ways to hate each other, to wage war, a time to refrain, when in shortly it may be a time to die. The time that may come where there are no goodbye's as it is too late.
In our relationships, we don't always appreciate them until their gone... miss them until its too late, or thank them until you've lost the opportunity. Make sure your friends know how much you truly value them, what they've done for you and how they've personally impacted your life.
Take advantage of the little time we have together, but never take advantage of who you have. Never forget your friends, never neglect your friends, never waste the time you have. We have less than you think. Recognize how others have enhanced your lives, how the interactions have improved your life, taught you so much... and be thankful you're not alone. Time is one of the few things we can't get back along with life... so neither of them are to waste.
Rest In Peace - J. Lee - April 1974 - September 2006
A good writer possesses not only his own spirit but also the spirit of his friends. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
You credit Nietzsche and your experience for your wisdom, but I credit you for teaching me so much in the little time we had together. I will forever possess your spirit in me. Thank you so much for everything you gave me. You've touched my life as an individual, as a friend, as an intellect, as a mentor, as a writer, as an artist, and so much more. I'm thankful for the time we had together and I'm thankful that I was blessed with our meeting. I miss you, and I hope that from that better place you're in you're watching over this "lunatic asylum" we've created for ourselves. Watch as I try to make this world a better place... You are amazing Jason; spirit, mind and body... with so much love, so much strength, and I say with honesty, much of me lives in your image hoping someday I will understand half of what you do. Someday, once again I will shake your hand, and we shall speak of the subtleties of life... for now I will continue to attempt to embrace all the little things. I miss you dearly... may you rest in peace.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Black & White
Recognize the colors of your life now… and appreciate them. Do not live life caught up in the search for the pot of gold and miss out on the beauty of the rainbow… Let’s embrace our youth and the spring of our lives… embrace the beauty of fall… as in the winter of our lives, its too late to search through the white and find the things we missed out on appreciating in the summer months. Take advantage of every day of every season, as time presses on no matter what, a day ends with one to follow. No way to look back, and no assurance that you’ll be part of the one which follows.
The beauty in our lives can be found in many places, taking colors from those who surround us, we’ll have a beautifully colored palate and our life is gigantic canvas for us to paint the picture of our life on. Never neglect the colors… and avoid conservative use of the canvas… its enormous. Try new things, and embrace what we create. There are little mistakes along the way, but they can be covered up and just a part of the process. There are portions which you may love better than others, but they all contribute to the whole picture. Appreciate the colors… step back and look onto your work of art.
Sunday, September 09, 2007
Average.
“Nothing average ever stood as a monument to progress. When progress is looking for a partner it doesn't turn to those who believe they are only average. It turns instead to those who are forever searching and striving to become the best they possibly can. If we seek the average level we cannot hope to achieve a high level of success. Our only hope is to avoid being a failure.”
-A. Lou Vickery
Don't ever look at the average, don't ever settle for average, and never settle for mediocrity. As Vickery once said, if we seek the average level we cannot hope to achieve a high level of success.
What we surround ourselves with, in people, and in environment it will inevitably affect our nature. It is up to us to surround us with the things we desire, strive to attain them and come to motivate ourselves. We need to surround ourselves with those expectations we wish for ourselves and surround us with the supports which will aid us in the journey to success.
To be great means believing in forever. To be strong means waiting forever. To strive to succeed. To never have enough... to be greedy... to never be stingy, to never be shy, to never be done. To always know that there is more... to understand you're never perfect. To know that you can never love someone too much... to know that you can never be too thankful... and you can never value someone too much. It is those who believe in forever, it is those who wish to eternalize themselves and leave a legacy, a memory and something for others to strive towards; it is those who succeed.
When we are dead and gone, our bodies leave, our assets hold no worth, it is but our legacy that remains; our memory, our hope, our love and our strength. It is what we shall be remembered for. It is that which lasts forever. My friendships, my love, my hope, my wishes and my expectations of myself and those around me. Everyday we must strive to achieve what is forever.
Though diamonds are "forever" even they break down, little by little, however, understand the dictionary defines forever as for a limitless time, at all times, synonymous to always... mathematically, limitless is infinity. Something which lasts forever, and is in turn infinite should be your spirit's journey to success... your heart's love... your soul's friendship... things which will never falter. These are things that should not be undermined, should not be compromised and should never be settled for.
Do not settle for average... not in your friends, not in your career and not in your life. Average is something that blends in... just part of the norm. Do not settle as a statistic... but be infinite. Be infinite in your friendship and your love, as then you shall be remembered that way... and realize that those you offer this to... you should understand the commitment you make... to love them, support them endlessly, this is the biggest accomplishment of all... to issue someone forever means that in the end... you will continue to be there... as you are that one, who is more than average... and you are that one who will give them more than you have and more... as what you give to them is never enough. What you offer, what you are willing to do is infinite, as who they are to you, is infinite, immeasurable and something which has changed you forever.
-A. Lou Vickery
Don't ever look at the average, don't ever settle for average, and never settle for mediocrity. As Vickery once said, if we seek the average level we cannot hope to achieve a high level of success.
What we surround ourselves with, in people, and in environment it will inevitably affect our nature. It is up to us to surround us with the things we desire, strive to attain them and come to motivate ourselves. We need to surround ourselves with those expectations we wish for ourselves and surround us with the supports which will aid us in the journey to success.
To be great means believing in forever. To be strong means waiting forever. To strive to succeed. To never have enough... to be greedy... to never be stingy, to never be shy, to never be done. To always know that there is more... to understand you're never perfect. To know that you can never love someone too much... to know that you can never be too thankful... and you can never value someone too much. It is those who believe in forever, it is those who wish to eternalize themselves and leave a legacy, a memory and something for others to strive towards; it is those who succeed.
When we are dead and gone, our bodies leave, our assets hold no worth, it is but our legacy that remains; our memory, our hope, our love and our strength. It is what we shall be remembered for. It is that which lasts forever. My friendships, my love, my hope, my wishes and my expectations of myself and those around me. Everyday we must strive to achieve what is forever.
Though diamonds are "forever" even they break down, little by little, however, understand the dictionary defines forever as for a limitless time, at all times, synonymous to always... mathematically, limitless is infinity. Something which lasts forever, and is in turn infinite should be your spirit's journey to success... your heart's love... your soul's friendship... things which will never falter. These are things that should not be undermined, should not be compromised and should never be settled for.
Do not settle for average... not in your friends, not in your career and not in your life. Average is something that blends in... just part of the norm. Do not settle as a statistic... but be infinite. Be infinite in your friendship and your love, as then you shall be remembered that way... and realize that those you offer this to... you should understand the commitment you make... to love them, support them endlessly, this is the biggest accomplishment of all... to issue someone forever means that in the end... you will continue to be there... as you are that one, who is more than average... and you are that one who will give them more than you have and more... as what you give to them is never enough. What you offer, what you are willing to do is infinite, as who they are to you, is infinite, immeasurable and something which has changed you forever.
Thursday, August 23, 2007
Puzzles.
“There are no extra pieces in the universe. Everyone is here because he or she has a place to fill, and every piece must fit itself into the big jigsaw puzzle.”
-Deepak Chopra
Some puzzles are $24.99, 1000 pieces, with a picture as a guide. All of us are part of puzzles... like Deepak Chopra says, pieces of the universe and it's master puzzle... however, all of us have our own puzzles... featuring mosaic pictures of our lives and everything encountered in them... unfortunately, often we never find all the pieces and we're not as easily completed, as even we dont know the whole picture and in this puzzle... nothing is definitive, and the cost is definitely beyond grasp.
We often find it difficult to find our own place in that puzzle of the universe, as at the same time we're struggling to make the pieces connect in our lives... unless we're at peace with our position in our own puzzles, we'll never find a place in society... never will we fit into the bigger picture. It is important that we sort out what is right in front of us before we jump to greater bigger things further out of our grasp and control.
Unfortunately, life's puzzle for us is done as we go along, no guide, no goal, no definitive destination... and often pieces are missing... and we never see the picture... as we build our life's puzzles with mosiacs and snapshots. Every image counts, documented in our memories and they are forever part of ourselves. It is up to you to take the shots worth remembering... and paint your picture with colors you wish to remember; sharp, vivid and memorable. You make sure those are the pieces you want... the memories you wish to keep and the decisions you will make.
Sometimes however... pieces fall into our hands... occasionally too many and we juggle them... grasp them... and toss them aside time and time again, though we know they fit somewhere in the puzzle we pick them up... toss them away... looking for the obvious pieces, the borders... what's seen outside the picture... lining holding what's so much more, but reality is, its the tough pieces that fit inside the picture... its the inside that counts. Not often are the border pieces missing, but its the inside of the picture... the parts where its so obvious when the pieces are missing... and how it hurts, how it burns and how it disturbs the picture when those pieces are missing the gaps in the picture break what could be beautiful, shatter what could be so perfect.
Everything that walks into your life... is meant to be part of your puzzle... take it as it comes and put the piece where it fits... don't avoid it... don't toss it around... and don't push it aside... theres a place for it... it fits... and let it build your mosiac, let it be part of your puzzle... if you lose those pieces... it will be just another gap... another part of you you've missed out on... and a emptiness nothing can fill... as those parts... those memories are unique and irreplaceable.
Don't let your place in the universe alter how you think of life... and how you think you should live to fit the great plan, as the universe's puzzle is made of billions of pieces, is much more versatile and in the big picture of no concern to you. Enjoy and ensure that the image you're building is one worth framing, one that you'll look back at every piece and remember and relive... don't let your puzzle be filled with gaps of regret and pieces you've thrown away... because when those pieces are one of a million... odds are you'll never find it again.
Thank you to those who've slid into my life... and found their place in my puzzle... thanks to those who make my picture so much more beautiful, and thank YOU for coming into my life and making it worth remembering... I know that you specifically have an important place in this picture... a big part of it... I'm tired of juggling the pieces... tired of throwing them away... and I assure your portion is permanent, as I'd never want to risk leaving that portion blank... I can't keep my eyes and my mind off of it.
-Deepak Chopra
Some puzzles are $24.99, 1000 pieces, with a picture as a guide. All of us are part of puzzles... like Deepak Chopra says, pieces of the universe and it's master puzzle... however, all of us have our own puzzles... featuring mosaic pictures of our lives and everything encountered in them... unfortunately, often we never find all the pieces and we're not as easily completed, as even we dont know the whole picture and in this puzzle... nothing is definitive, and the cost is definitely beyond grasp.
We often find it difficult to find our own place in that puzzle of the universe, as at the same time we're struggling to make the pieces connect in our lives... unless we're at peace with our position in our own puzzles, we'll never find a place in society... never will we fit into the bigger picture. It is important that we sort out what is right in front of us before we jump to greater bigger things further out of our grasp and control.
Unfortunately, life's puzzle for us is done as we go along, no guide, no goal, no definitive destination... and often pieces are missing... and we never see the picture... as we build our life's puzzles with mosiacs and snapshots. Every image counts, documented in our memories and they are forever part of ourselves. It is up to you to take the shots worth remembering... and paint your picture with colors you wish to remember; sharp, vivid and memorable. You make sure those are the pieces you want... the memories you wish to keep and the decisions you will make.
Sometimes however... pieces fall into our hands... occasionally too many and we juggle them... grasp them... and toss them aside time and time again, though we know they fit somewhere in the puzzle we pick them up... toss them away... looking for the obvious pieces, the borders... what's seen outside the picture... lining holding what's so much more, but reality is, its the tough pieces that fit inside the picture... its the inside that counts. Not often are the border pieces missing, but its the inside of the picture... the parts where its so obvious when the pieces are missing... and how it hurts, how it burns and how it disturbs the picture when those pieces are missing the gaps in the picture break what could be beautiful, shatter what could be so perfect.
Everything that walks into your life... is meant to be part of your puzzle... take it as it comes and put the piece where it fits... don't avoid it... don't toss it around... and don't push it aside... theres a place for it... it fits... and let it build your mosiac, let it be part of your puzzle... if you lose those pieces... it will be just another gap... another part of you you've missed out on... and a emptiness nothing can fill... as those parts... those memories are unique and irreplaceable.
Don't let your place in the universe alter how you think of life... and how you think you should live to fit the great plan, as the universe's puzzle is made of billions of pieces, is much more versatile and in the big picture of no concern to you. Enjoy and ensure that the image you're building is one worth framing, one that you'll look back at every piece and remember and relive... don't let your puzzle be filled with gaps of regret and pieces you've thrown away... because when those pieces are one of a million... odds are you'll never find it again.
Thank you to those who've slid into my life... and found their place in my puzzle... thanks to those who make my picture so much more beautiful, and thank YOU for coming into my life and making it worth remembering... I know that you specifically have an important place in this picture... a big part of it... I'm tired of juggling the pieces... tired of throwing them away... and I assure your portion is permanent, as I'd never want to risk leaving that portion blank... I can't keep my eyes and my mind off of it.
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Hope[more]
Hope is found in many places… be it faith, be it love, be it family, be it friends… Regardless of religion, regardless of financial situation, race or age there are common threads which tie together the values applicable to every man, and therefore thank God and every other entity who has instilled hope in a human life in order to make the days shorter… to make the days easier and the world better.
Some days we must ask ourselves, what exactly is hope and where can it be found? Be not the entity, be not a god, be not a savior, be not a hero… instill faith… provide hope…
Hope is not seen, not tasted, or heard… however, it may be touched, found and experienced. It may be recognized as a necessity; food for the soul which you can provide, clothes which may shield from cold, and a roof to stop the rain… as easy as it is to provide hope its just as easy to steal it… take it away… and break it… breaking hope.. you break dreams… reality and so much more…
Realizing the importance of hope, it is our obligation to do our best to provide hope as much as we desire to seek it. In order to fight disadvantages, to fight inequality and disparity, hope can be provided in the form of words or gestures… it is beyond our understanding what speech, text or a hug may mean.
In order to provide hope, we must understand the difference between attempting to provide a vision of the future to one who is lost as opposed to “help” by producing pseudo-sympathy by giving pity.
It is up to you to hope… hope more… and hope for a better future to build the homes of the future, provide the nourishment for the soul and not only clothe but protect. By protecting, we’re not censoring but giving those a chance to overcome the adversity which were not by choice but by fate.
Should you be fortunate enough to find hope, should be fortunate enough to find shelter from the storm, or food to fight the hunger… then it is your obligation as a human… to share and to turn the world with gears armed with teeth which are made from your desire to help. Your compassion, your vision… and your desire to make a change is what empowers you… these are the things which are provided to you as tools to attempt to fix the jagged edges of inequality and the cold rain of which often takes away the warmth… and hides the tears which those have gotten used to feeling, though we have failed to see them... it is our chance now… to wipe those tears… and provide hope in any way possible.
Some days we must ask ourselves, what exactly is hope and where can it be found? Be not the entity, be not a god, be not a savior, be not a hero… instill faith… provide hope…
Hope is not seen, not tasted, or heard… however, it may be touched, found and experienced. It may be recognized as a necessity; food for the soul which you can provide, clothes which may shield from cold, and a roof to stop the rain… as easy as it is to provide hope its just as easy to steal it… take it away… and break it… breaking hope.. you break dreams… reality and so much more…
Realizing the importance of hope, it is our obligation to do our best to provide hope as much as we desire to seek it. In order to fight disadvantages, to fight inequality and disparity, hope can be provided in the form of words or gestures… it is beyond our understanding what speech, text or a hug may mean.
In order to provide hope, we must understand the difference between attempting to provide a vision of the future to one who is lost as opposed to “help” by producing pseudo-sympathy by giving pity.
It is up to you to hope… hope more… and hope for a better future to build the homes of the future, provide the nourishment for the soul and not only clothe but protect. By protecting, we’re not censoring but giving those a chance to overcome the adversity which were not by choice but by fate.
Should you be fortunate enough to find hope, should be fortunate enough to find shelter from the storm, or food to fight the hunger… then it is your obligation as a human… to share and to turn the world with gears armed with teeth which are made from your desire to help. Your compassion, your vision… and your desire to make a change is what empowers you… these are the things which are provided to you as tools to attempt to fix the jagged edges of inequality and the cold rain of which often takes away the warmth… and hides the tears which those have gotten used to feeling, though we have failed to see them... it is our chance now… to wipe those tears… and provide hope in any way possible.
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Gravitation.
As said by Albert Einstein:
Firstly, "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love." and secondly, "How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?"
In our lives, as humans, we experience emotions; sadness, anger, desire, hope, pain, happiness. How we allow them to control us and to what extent is usually occurs by choice. We choose to let our anger take over, we choose to overcome our sadness, we fufill our desire. What we cannot control is our love.
We have the ability to prioritize in our life our values and the size of the role in which each portion may consume our lives; friendship, wealth, occupation and otherwise. However, we can control how much we value money... but love is something that can consume us in ways unimaginable.
We neither choose who we love, or understand the reasons why. True love lacks any definition and follows no direct route and is completely unavoidable, hitting at the most random of times. Though we can choose to lose sleep over our occupations, or stay up late angry; trying to fall asleep pained by an unreturned love, lost love or shattered love hits every emotion imaginable and suddenly sleep has lost all priority, and it is not by choice. Like our feet lack the ability to fight gravity... us as humans lack the ability to fight love.
Those lucky enough to experience it and understand it should embrace it rather than attempt to fight the inevitable. There is no way to explain it as Einstein says in terms of science and nature, love brings on a variety of feelings on the spectrum and each and every piece should not be ignored. Though at times it may hurt... having experience the pleasure that love has the potential to give provides a value to live on a scale no other emotion can even graze.
Love hurts. It is undeniable, when it hurts, it kills... at times literally, as there is no fighting it, there is no hiding it and the pain of heartache is one which is incomparable. However, finding love and having it returned is a feeling beyond pleasure, explanations or dreams. Love is comperable to the rose in which represents love, holding all the beauty in the world when blossomed, however, wielding the thorns which may not only prick with pain but leave behind a cut at times so deep, it will scar and be unforgettable. The vision itself of love is so perfect, often so unique and so intriguing, it is one which captures your heart, your body and your soul. That amazing feeling love can provide... is one only true love can show you... and when experienced, you will know. The image of the rose will be one burned into your mind, one no photograph can capture, but your memory can develop perpetually such that nothing else enters your thoughts.
When you have love you will hold it tightly, afraid to let go... but holding on the thorns so tightly will allow your blood to flow... the wounds will be fresh, deep and pained... unfortunately, this pain continues unless someone's love is given to you to ensure that rose lives... its when you release that rose, does it hurt the most... leaving you vulnerable... and looking at yourself helplessly as you let yourself seep away, waiting for a bandage who only one can place on you...
So what do you do when you fall in love... what do you do when you see love... what do you do when you touch love?
Do what your heart tells you... either embrace the image... or let go while the injury is small... a prick will sting... but once you've clutched it... it will be something which will hurt for a long time... and definitely scar. Only healed by the one who placed the rose in your hand... sometimes the wait is lengthly... but sometimes that is the only cure... the pain is one which is enough to drive many insane... so should you believe you felt the prick... don't wait for the wound to open... because sometimes... the pain is one you cannot fight.
Firstly, "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love." and secondly, "How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?"
In our lives, as humans, we experience emotions; sadness, anger, desire, hope, pain, happiness. How we allow them to control us and to what extent is usually occurs by choice. We choose to let our anger take over, we choose to overcome our sadness, we fufill our desire. What we cannot control is our love.
We have the ability to prioritize in our life our values and the size of the role in which each portion may consume our lives; friendship, wealth, occupation and otherwise. However, we can control how much we value money... but love is something that can consume us in ways unimaginable.
We neither choose who we love, or understand the reasons why. True love lacks any definition and follows no direct route and is completely unavoidable, hitting at the most random of times. Though we can choose to lose sleep over our occupations, or stay up late angry; trying to fall asleep pained by an unreturned love, lost love or shattered love hits every emotion imaginable and suddenly sleep has lost all priority, and it is not by choice. Like our feet lack the ability to fight gravity... us as humans lack the ability to fight love.
Those lucky enough to experience it and understand it should embrace it rather than attempt to fight the inevitable. There is no way to explain it as Einstein says in terms of science and nature, love brings on a variety of feelings on the spectrum and each and every piece should not be ignored. Though at times it may hurt... having experience the pleasure that love has the potential to give provides a value to live on a scale no other emotion can even graze.
Love hurts. It is undeniable, when it hurts, it kills... at times literally, as there is no fighting it, there is no hiding it and the pain of heartache is one which is incomparable. However, finding love and having it returned is a feeling beyond pleasure, explanations or dreams. Love is comperable to the rose in which represents love, holding all the beauty in the world when blossomed, however, wielding the thorns which may not only prick with pain but leave behind a cut at times so deep, it will scar and be unforgettable. The vision itself of love is so perfect, often so unique and so intriguing, it is one which captures your heart, your body and your soul. That amazing feeling love can provide... is one only true love can show you... and when experienced, you will know. The image of the rose will be one burned into your mind, one no photograph can capture, but your memory can develop perpetually such that nothing else enters your thoughts.
When you have love you will hold it tightly, afraid to let go... but holding on the thorns so tightly will allow your blood to flow... the wounds will be fresh, deep and pained... unfortunately, this pain continues unless someone's love is given to you to ensure that rose lives... its when you release that rose, does it hurt the most... leaving you vulnerable... and looking at yourself helplessly as you let yourself seep away, waiting for a bandage who only one can place on you...
So what do you do when you fall in love... what do you do when you see love... what do you do when you touch love?
Do what your heart tells you... either embrace the image... or let go while the injury is small... a prick will sting... but once you've clutched it... it will be something which will hurt for a long time... and definitely scar. Only healed by the one who placed the rose in your hand... sometimes the wait is lengthly... but sometimes that is the only cure... the pain is one which is enough to drive many insane... so should you believe you felt the prick... don't wait for the wound to open... because sometimes... the pain is one you cannot fight.
Saturday, February 10, 2007
Sparkle.
It is often we look to the night sky to see nothing but darkness... stars washed out by the city lights and the cloud cover denying us the vision of glimmering points of hope and strength. With stars a symbol of hope... wishes... dreams... they are rarely seen... as they are also rarely attained. Often they are lost amongst that which shines brighter, our obvious priorities, our daily lights sometimes blinding us from what lies beneath... that lonely desire, lonely aspiration.
We ourselves often shine... only to be washed out by other lights... recognized as "the stars" rather than the individual. When the skies are clear, we all are seen as "the stars", but what seperates you from the next is within and far away. As our sun is just one star... a world depends on it. This is your life, your world depends on your light, the light you cast... and the warmth you emit. What the other stars are doing is not of your concern, as it is your responsibility to light your world.
Stop comparing yourself and your light to the other stars, as in the grand scheme we are equal... the difference is how you light your own world. How you view your light and its importance. Look not to the sky and see yourself as a piece of the constellation, but see yourself as the sun itself... the reason you rise in the morning is the sun rises for you... you make the best of your life... you need to be your reason for waking... Don't be the star to burn out... don't give up, and you'll find your galaxy never lacking.
In your sky... you need to begin to seperate those lights which was out your hopes, dreams, desires and begin to recognize what you wish to light your sky with rather than allowing the norms and the dull to be the ambient light. Single out your stars... and grasp them as they twinkle to fill your vision.
Finally... recognize what will always be there to help you light your sky... what your night sky is empty without... the stars you must recognize, the stars of your life... those which may be lost in the darkness at times, lost in the brightness at others, but always shine for you. Dag Hammarskjold asks you to "Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for", be it your career, be it your friends, be it your love. What you find will always be with you... always shining... never faultering. At times, it may flicker... but don't lose hope... as it will never leave... and will shine for you as strongly as you allow yourself to single them out in your sky.
What's in your night sky...?
We ourselves often shine... only to be washed out by other lights... recognized as "the stars" rather than the individual. When the skies are clear, we all are seen as "the stars", but what seperates you from the next is within and far away. As our sun is just one star... a world depends on it. This is your life, your world depends on your light, the light you cast... and the warmth you emit. What the other stars are doing is not of your concern, as it is your responsibility to light your world.
Stop comparing yourself and your light to the other stars, as in the grand scheme we are equal... the difference is how you light your own world. How you view your light and its importance. Look not to the sky and see yourself as a piece of the constellation, but see yourself as the sun itself... the reason you rise in the morning is the sun rises for you... you make the best of your life... you need to be your reason for waking... Don't be the star to burn out... don't give up, and you'll find your galaxy never lacking.
In your sky... you need to begin to seperate those lights which was out your hopes, dreams, desires and begin to recognize what you wish to light your sky with rather than allowing the norms and the dull to be the ambient light. Single out your stars... and grasp them as they twinkle to fill your vision.
Finally... recognize what will always be there to help you light your sky... what your night sky is empty without... the stars you must recognize, the stars of your life... those which may be lost in the darkness at times, lost in the brightness at others, but always shine for you. Dag Hammarskjold asks you to "Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for", be it your career, be it your friends, be it your love. What you find will always be with you... always shining... never faultering. At times, it may flicker... but don't lose hope... as it will never leave... and will shine for you as strongly as you allow yourself to single them out in your sky.
What's in your night sky...?
Friday, February 09, 2007
Dis[criminate]Criminals
"Life is nothing but a competition to be the criminal rather than the victim."
-Bertrand Russell
Life is perpetuated by money, materials, greed, desire and thrill. What is socially acceptable, inacceptable. What is deviant and what is the norm. As G. Gordon Liddy says: Obviously crime pays or there'd be no crime. Regardless of the crime, small or large, it is committed with rational, thinking and orchestrated to achieve a given goal; be it riches or recognition.
But what is crime... who are we as individuals to judge what is a "crime" of mankind versus a crime in the politically constructed society. What is crime? Drug dealers have been a part of society since the understanding of drugs in relation to capital... murder has been around since hatred... and theft has been around since desire. But what is crime when we look at drug dealers as those providing of a service in an inevitable market. When we look at murder as a cleansing of those deemed weak... or in the end a greater threat to mankind. Or if we look at theft as a way to feed the starving mouth of a child. Charity if you will. Is theft then still a crime?
For those who make it a game... it is those who we must frown upon; but what of those who have made it their lives... for those who have sacrificed it all to live in the world of deception and suffering, often recognized as subhuman. When crime is no longer of choice, but of consequence, of need, of necessity. What then is crime?
Let us question our values, our politics, our preconceptions... our society. Are con artists and frauds any more criminals than our politicians? Is mispending tax money any different than accepting payment for a sought after commodity? When your safety is not being compromised for money by the underside of society, it is being compromised in education, health care and social support systems.
Who are the true criminals and who are you to judge. Who are you to judge a child, a youth, a young adult based on socioeconomic class or otherwise, what kind of person they will become... and based on a single event, for the rest of their lives will they be recognized as criminal. Not discrediting the validity of our legal system, but who are we to judge as free citizens, the legitimacy of a member of society after they have been released from a federal institution for a crime. How do they recieve the label which they may never remove? Are we rightful in holding it against them?
Sometimes crimes are not about the money... not about the goods... etc. Most definitely it pays... and often payment contributes to the crime and it's severity, but what would you do when its the only action in your control remaining to continue to live. To survive... to maintain your status in society... to play a role in natural selection, to show your strength. It's no longer about monetary wealth, but it becomes necessity. How do our laws compensate for those who have not the choice. Not always do you have the choice; but occassionally we are faced with the inevitable. When caught by the hands of fate, we are but puppets to the evil devices which may hold us... and allow us one last breath. As marionettes must we be punished for the strings we could not fight...?
Sometimes... a crime is preventing yourself from becoming the victim... and sometimes... its recognizing a rule broken may be worth the final product. The consequences are often obvious... when you choose to commit a crime... it is slightly different from when you are running from becoming the victim. That is the difference between murder and manslaughter... where do you draw the lines in life...? When do you take the risks... and when do you give in, only to be jailed and held down for the "crime" you didn't commit? When do your wants... your needs... and values surpass consequence?
What crimes have you committed?
-Bertrand Russell
Life is perpetuated by money, materials, greed, desire and thrill. What is socially acceptable, inacceptable. What is deviant and what is the norm. As G. Gordon Liddy says: Obviously crime pays or there'd be no crime. Regardless of the crime, small or large, it is committed with rational, thinking and orchestrated to achieve a given goal; be it riches or recognition.
But what is crime... who are we as individuals to judge what is a "crime" of mankind versus a crime in the politically constructed society. What is crime? Drug dealers have been a part of society since the understanding of drugs in relation to capital... murder has been around since hatred... and theft has been around since desire. But what is crime when we look at drug dealers as those providing of a service in an inevitable market. When we look at murder as a cleansing of those deemed weak... or in the end a greater threat to mankind. Or if we look at theft as a way to feed the starving mouth of a child. Charity if you will. Is theft then still a crime?
For those who make it a game... it is those who we must frown upon; but what of those who have made it their lives... for those who have sacrificed it all to live in the world of deception and suffering, often recognized as subhuman. When crime is no longer of choice, but of consequence, of need, of necessity. What then is crime?
Let us question our values, our politics, our preconceptions... our society. Are con artists and frauds any more criminals than our politicians? Is mispending tax money any different than accepting payment for a sought after commodity? When your safety is not being compromised for money by the underside of society, it is being compromised in education, health care and social support systems.
Who are the true criminals and who are you to judge. Who are you to judge a child, a youth, a young adult based on socioeconomic class or otherwise, what kind of person they will become... and based on a single event, for the rest of their lives will they be recognized as criminal. Not discrediting the validity of our legal system, but who are we to judge as free citizens, the legitimacy of a member of society after they have been released from a federal institution for a crime. How do they recieve the label which they may never remove? Are we rightful in holding it against them?
Sometimes crimes are not about the money... not about the goods... etc. Most definitely it pays... and often payment contributes to the crime and it's severity, but what would you do when its the only action in your control remaining to continue to live. To survive... to maintain your status in society... to play a role in natural selection, to show your strength. It's no longer about monetary wealth, but it becomes necessity. How do our laws compensate for those who have not the choice. Not always do you have the choice; but occassionally we are faced with the inevitable. When caught by the hands of fate, we are but puppets to the evil devices which may hold us... and allow us one last breath. As marionettes must we be punished for the strings we could not fight...?
Sometimes... a crime is preventing yourself from becoming the victim... and sometimes... its recognizing a rule broken may be worth the final product. The consequences are often obvious... when you choose to commit a crime... it is slightly different from when you are running from becoming the victim. That is the difference between murder and manslaughter... where do you draw the lines in life...? When do you take the risks... and when do you give in, only to be jailed and held down for the "crime" you didn't commit? When do your wants... your needs... and values surpass consequence?
What crimes have you committed?
Tuesday, February 06, 2007
You will never know.
"Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future."
-Fulton Oursler
Both thoughts of the past as well as the future are a waste of time. Time fails to stop as you stop it to think about what you've already done and what you wish to do. The actions which you wish to complete will only fail to be achieved if you continue to dwell on what you have done wrong in the past. The fear for the future only prevents you from making the present the best possible, however is it ever contemplated what would occur should there be no future?
As Oscar Wilde has once said "One's real life is often the life one does not lead." By continuing to putting off what you may delegate today, it is inevitable that the days pass faster than you'd wish they did and in the end you'll find that your achievements are mediocre in the frame of things. When you lack the motivation to strive to succeed you'll notice that even the smallest failures are the biggest impacts.
It is often said that in the final moments of your life, your life flashes before your eyes - your job is to make it worth watching. With the perpetual motion of the stars, the sun and the moon, it is inevitable that the sun will continue to rise and time will progress. Whether you progress with it is up to you. Do not forget, life owes no existence to you. Time will progress regardless as the world does not revolve around you. It is up to you to go to bed at night recalling what you accomplished that day rather than what you wished to accomplish. The harder you push at the end of a day, the sweeter the rest comes and the satisfaction is immeasurable, and you yourself will find that you control how many revolutions you will make with the world and how quickly they go by.
Like a child knows not the taste of sweetness until one tastes sugar. Like a child knows not to cherish the sweetness until he tastes bitter... like the child knows not that he values his toys, until they're gone. The toys which you may take advantage of may not always be there... don't forget all the pleasure they provide... don't break them, don't lose them, because some times... nothing can rebuy the joy that it's given you, and though the toys may be replaced with others, there's always the one from childhood you never forget. As this child, we are introduced to sweetness and bitterness, what we need to do, is learn to value the sweetness. Not forget the bitter, but find and cherish the sweet. If this child spends all his time thinking about sweet and never seeking more... that may be the taste that remains solely a memory. Why is it that kids are always willing to taste, to try and to attempt to find things they like... however we hold fear in such an esteem that we discredit adventure and risk. Risk is what will help you find those sweet things.
You will find the more you try, you find the sweetness you love. Settle for nothing but the best. You deserve it. Things with sugar are inevitably sweet however, the question is what do you like the best. Be it chocolate, be it cake, be it gummi bears or lollipops, there are hundreds of different sweets. Don't just settle for the second best dessert in your opinion. Strive to get what you love the most. What you wish to enjoy... just because its sweet doesn't mean its the best you can get. If you have to push that much harder to get the dessert you wish, it will be that much more satisfying. That much sweeter... sometimes it just takes a little bitterness to bring out the flavor. Next time you crave sweets, eat the most bitter thing you can find, and you'll find the sweets are that much sweeter. That's what life is like, without the bitters you wouldn't cherish the sweets. Without the darkness we wouldn't know light, without pain, we wouldn't know happiness.
Your life is your candy shop. Don't let the past and the fear of the future rob you of your treasures. The prices you may pay are small in comparison to the greatness you will receive. Make the sacrifices, and recognize the inhibitions which you have holding you to the crucifix. Pulling your arms away from the distant parts of the continuum, bringing your limbs to your core, allow you to live in the present... where you yourself can choose where to go, allowing you to protect what may come at your center in the present. With your arms spread out... stretching you across time and space, you make yourself more vulnerable than ever, allowing regret and fear to whip you with all their might. By stretching on that continuum, all pain you feel is self induced... you choose to drink the vinegar which may slightly soothe your thirst... but the thirst only intensifies. You make yourself a martyr, which only you yourself understand what sacrifices you're making... who are you living for... and who are you hurting for, but you yourself are human... just short of what would be worshipped. Unfortunately your existence is less than religiously recognized.
Protect yourself... and rise against the planks of time. Make life's replays worth watching... and make memories you wish to relive. Seek dessert after your meals... and don't be afraid of a little bitterness... because the sweetness tastes that much better. Live for yourself and live for the present... as it is the gift which you create. Your life is but an empty box. What you choose to fill it with; the rocks of burden or the light and beautiful easy going emotions... it is all what you choose to place in it.
-Fulton Oursler
Both thoughts of the past as well as the future are a waste of time. Time fails to stop as you stop it to think about what you've already done and what you wish to do. The actions which you wish to complete will only fail to be achieved if you continue to dwell on what you have done wrong in the past. The fear for the future only prevents you from making the present the best possible, however is it ever contemplated what would occur should there be no future?
As Oscar Wilde has once said "One's real life is often the life one does not lead." By continuing to putting off what you may delegate today, it is inevitable that the days pass faster than you'd wish they did and in the end you'll find that your achievements are mediocre in the frame of things. When you lack the motivation to strive to succeed you'll notice that even the smallest failures are the biggest impacts.
It is often said that in the final moments of your life, your life flashes before your eyes - your job is to make it worth watching. With the perpetual motion of the stars, the sun and the moon, it is inevitable that the sun will continue to rise and time will progress. Whether you progress with it is up to you. Do not forget, life owes no existence to you. Time will progress regardless as the world does not revolve around you. It is up to you to go to bed at night recalling what you accomplished that day rather than what you wished to accomplish. The harder you push at the end of a day, the sweeter the rest comes and the satisfaction is immeasurable, and you yourself will find that you control how many revolutions you will make with the world and how quickly they go by.
Like a child knows not the taste of sweetness until one tastes sugar. Like a child knows not to cherish the sweetness until he tastes bitter... like the child knows not that he values his toys, until they're gone. The toys which you may take advantage of may not always be there... don't forget all the pleasure they provide... don't break them, don't lose them, because some times... nothing can rebuy the joy that it's given you, and though the toys may be replaced with others, there's always the one from childhood you never forget. As this child, we are introduced to sweetness and bitterness, what we need to do, is learn to value the sweetness. Not forget the bitter, but find and cherish the sweet. If this child spends all his time thinking about sweet and never seeking more... that may be the taste that remains solely a memory. Why is it that kids are always willing to taste, to try and to attempt to find things they like... however we hold fear in such an esteem that we discredit adventure and risk. Risk is what will help you find those sweet things.
You will find the more you try, you find the sweetness you love. Settle for nothing but the best. You deserve it. Things with sugar are inevitably sweet however, the question is what do you like the best. Be it chocolate, be it cake, be it gummi bears or lollipops, there are hundreds of different sweets. Don't just settle for the second best dessert in your opinion. Strive to get what you love the most. What you wish to enjoy... just because its sweet doesn't mean its the best you can get. If you have to push that much harder to get the dessert you wish, it will be that much more satisfying. That much sweeter... sometimes it just takes a little bitterness to bring out the flavor. Next time you crave sweets, eat the most bitter thing you can find, and you'll find the sweets are that much sweeter. That's what life is like, without the bitters you wouldn't cherish the sweets. Without the darkness we wouldn't know light, without pain, we wouldn't know happiness.
Your life is your candy shop. Don't let the past and the fear of the future rob you of your treasures. The prices you may pay are small in comparison to the greatness you will receive. Make the sacrifices, and recognize the inhibitions which you have holding you to the crucifix. Pulling your arms away from the distant parts of the continuum, bringing your limbs to your core, allow you to live in the present... where you yourself can choose where to go, allowing you to protect what may come at your center in the present. With your arms spread out... stretching you across time and space, you make yourself more vulnerable than ever, allowing regret and fear to whip you with all their might. By stretching on that continuum, all pain you feel is self induced... you choose to drink the vinegar which may slightly soothe your thirst... but the thirst only intensifies. You make yourself a martyr, which only you yourself understand what sacrifices you're making... who are you living for... and who are you hurting for, but you yourself are human... just short of what would be worshipped. Unfortunately your existence is less than religiously recognized.
Protect yourself... and rise against the planks of time. Make life's replays worth watching... and make memories you wish to relive. Seek dessert after your meals... and don't be afraid of a little bitterness... because the sweetness tastes that much better. Live for yourself and live for the present... as it is the gift which you create. Your life is but an empty box. What you choose to fill it with; the rocks of burden or the light and beautiful easy going emotions... it is all what you choose to place in it.
Sunday, January 28, 2007
All glory comes from daring to begin.
Eugene F. Ware stated that "All glory comes from daring to begin." With this statement he introduces the fact of life; should we never jump, we will never truly know how high we are... whether we'll be caught, whether we'll fall... whether we'll crash... or land on our feet.
With the new year, we wish for things to be renewed, for things to begin anew. But as ignorance would hope to give us forgiveness and the ability to forget... the past fails to be left in the past as it creeps and seeps into the future. As the years crossover in the continuim of life, to prevent the past from repeating in the future, we must take the first leap in preventing the replication, duplication and continuation of pain, suffering and failure.
With this leap... we take great risk, and with this risk comes the potential for great return. For the achievement of glory and discovery of success... it all begins with one step. As no lottery can be won without the purchase of a ticket, often the small losses in relation to the big picture may be negligable... without taking the chance, without making the sacrifices we may never know what riches life has to offer.
Greatness is not what we achieve, but what we overcome. Often it's the strength to overcome with gives us greatness and much satisfaction. The shock from the landing which our body takes from the leap, is not what our knees cannot handle. The surprise of success or failure is often what the mind cannot withstand... it is the result of the jump and the judgment of its value which justifies whether or not the jump was worthwhile. No gain comes lacking sacrifice, and sacrifice may come with multiple jumps... multiple shocks and much pain before our mind finds that state of euphoria. "I never said it would be easy, I said it would be worth it. -A. Williams"
In this new year, now almost one month in. Recognize that time is something which society has placed restraints on. Nothing bars you from jumping out of the plane you rode last year... nothing denies you the ability to ammend problems of the past. Living in the past is different from living from the past. As the past builds the foundation for the future, it may teach us wonders. Never forget the past... but dwell not upon it. Take the leaps which you fear... maybe the outcome will surprise you... no good comes without sacrifice... and sometimes... sacrifice is recognized... experience is developed... and then success is inevitable. Live life as a continium letting it be the road you travel... constraints such as time... deadlines... and the past be bumps in the road... they are what you make of them. Dare to begin... and seek glory at every oppertunity.
With the new year, we wish for things to be renewed, for things to begin anew. But as ignorance would hope to give us forgiveness and the ability to forget... the past fails to be left in the past as it creeps and seeps into the future. As the years crossover in the continuim of life, to prevent the past from repeating in the future, we must take the first leap in preventing the replication, duplication and continuation of pain, suffering and failure.
With this leap... we take great risk, and with this risk comes the potential for great return. For the achievement of glory and discovery of success... it all begins with one step. As no lottery can be won without the purchase of a ticket, often the small losses in relation to the big picture may be negligable... without taking the chance, without making the sacrifices we may never know what riches life has to offer.
Greatness is not what we achieve, but what we overcome. Often it's the strength to overcome with gives us greatness and much satisfaction. The shock from the landing which our body takes from the leap, is not what our knees cannot handle. The surprise of success or failure is often what the mind cannot withstand... it is the result of the jump and the judgment of its value which justifies whether or not the jump was worthwhile. No gain comes lacking sacrifice, and sacrifice may come with multiple jumps... multiple shocks and much pain before our mind finds that state of euphoria. "I never said it would be easy, I said it would be worth it. -A. Williams"
In this new year, now almost one month in. Recognize that time is something which society has placed restraints on. Nothing bars you from jumping out of the plane you rode last year... nothing denies you the ability to ammend problems of the past. Living in the past is different from living from the past. As the past builds the foundation for the future, it may teach us wonders. Never forget the past... but dwell not upon it. Take the leaps which you fear... maybe the outcome will surprise you... no good comes without sacrifice... and sometimes... sacrifice is recognized... experience is developed... and then success is inevitable. Live life as a continium letting it be the road you travel... constraints such as time... deadlines... and the past be bumps in the road... they are what you make of them. Dare to begin... and seek glory at every oppertunity.
Friday, December 29, 2006
Letting go.
Sometimes... letting go is what you need to do.
The heart you could never have, the mittens you lost in the cold, or the hand you'd never hold...
Sometimes, its easier just to let go than stretch for what is barely there to begin with. Dont stretch for what was never in reach... and dont struggle to carry the load you could never sustain. And its better to forget and leave in the past what may hurt the future.
With every new day, new month, new year, its a new oppertunity to turn over a leaf... and leave it all behind. Its just a matter of making it happen. The new you is just some motivation away. Its an oppertunity to make your life better... to get what you want, need and deserve. With your hands half full... and your baggage from the past trailing behind you, how do you expect to fill your life with wonderful things and accept the future? Its a sign you need to just let it go.
To build the courage to move on is a difficult task, as its mandatory to break down the wall built up of past filled with doubt, regret and snap the binding ropes holding you back... but it is a task that must be done. With faith, hope and desire as your sledgehammers, break down the wall, and build one stronger, brick by brick... building yourself something that can support you... seamless and perfect. Build your life, your dreams... and it all starts with shattering the past.
Don't let wandering thoughts hinder your building... and don't let the ghosts of your past haunt your new wall... as you walk down the road of life... it's now that you must leave behind whats been holding you back. It's now that you can start to recognize what is beside you and ahead of you, and realizing whats always been trailing behind... sometimes, its just better... to push forward and ignore what you leave in the dust. Were the past important; it'll catch up.
Leave nothing unresolved, so in your shattering... dig out all the pieces in yourself... and recognize problems or the ghosts of the past... and come to terms with them, or they will forever hinder you. Accept, forgive... but never forget, what history teaches us is history repeats itself, so in the end prevent the repeat, learn from our mistakes, and recognize our values. In leaving what holds you back, you must break the chains in which they hold you with. Resolve... and revolutionize your life.
Let go of what you're holding onto, and break the hold of what holds onto you. When you drop the burdens in your hands... in your hearts... in your baggage, you will walk worry free... your heart no longer heavy... your hands now empty and open to accept the change... and you will be able to run. Run into the future and grasp what you deserve. Get the future you want... it all starts with leaving it all behind.
The heart you could never have, the mittens you lost in the cold, or the hand you'd never hold...
Sometimes, its easier just to let go than stretch for what is barely there to begin with. Dont stretch for what was never in reach... and dont struggle to carry the load you could never sustain. And its better to forget and leave in the past what may hurt the future.
With every new day, new month, new year, its a new oppertunity to turn over a leaf... and leave it all behind. Its just a matter of making it happen. The new you is just some motivation away. Its an oppertunity to make your life better... to get what you want, need and deserve. With your hands half full... and your baggage from the past trailing behind you, how do you expect to fill your life with wonderful things and accept the future? Its a sign you need to just let it go.
To build the courage to move on is a difficult task, as its mandatory to break down the wall built up of past filled with doubt, regret and snap the binding ropes holding you back... but it is a task that must be done. With faith, hope and desire as your sledgehammers, break down the wall, and build one stronger, brick by brick... building yourself something that can support you... seamless and perfect. Build your life, your dreams... and it all starts with shattering the past.
Don't let wandering thoughts hinder your building... and don't let the ghosts of your past haunt your new wall... as you walk down the road of life... it's now that you must leave behind whats been holding you back. It's now that you can start to recognize what is beside you and ahead of you, and realizing whats always been trailing behind... sometimes, its just better... to push forward and ignore what you leave in the dust. Were the past important; it'll catch up.
Leave nothing unresolved, so in your shattering... dig out all the pieces in yourself... and recognize problems or the ghosts of the past... and come to terms with them, or they will forever hinder you. Accept, forgive... but never forget, what history teaches us is history repeats itself, so in the end prevent the repeat, learn from our mistakes, and recognize our values. In leaving what holds you back, you must break the chains in which they hold you with. Resolve... and revolutionize your life.
Let go of what you're holding onto, and break the hold of what holds onto you. When you drop the burdens in your hands... in your hearts... in your baggage, you will walk worry free... your heart no longer heavy... your hands now empty and open to accept the change... and you will be able to run. Run into the future and grasp what you deserve. Get the future you want... it all starts with leaving it all behind.
Friday, December 01, 2006
Everything, but Nothing.
The Girl Who Has Everything, Yet Nothing to Love.
Everyday she wakes up to a family that pampers her. The breakfast made for her. And the day that awaits her. Her day is showered with her run ins with friends and acquaintances, and she appears to be the happiest and most popular girl in the world. More friends than fingers and toes, more admirers than body parts... what more could she want? She shops to no end, buys shoes, shirts and skirts... to fill that void inside. The luxury, the fame, the fashion and the friends, but is there love?
You can offer this girl shoes, but to her they are replaceable and plenty more at home. Offer her a meal and she will be full for but a moment. Offer her friendship and she will have one more contact in her phone book. Offer her love and she will be lost without an idea what to do and deny the one thing she doesn't have. What she doesnt realize is that is the love better than all she has...
In the material world, this girl has everything. Everything is perfect on the outside... but how does she feel on the inside? When you are the girl who yearns for "everything", think of what you're getting... think of how you will be the girl who puts a price on everything but never can find love... never values the love, because when its there, you seek the price of it.
Should you know how to love, know what love is... truly value love, feel love. Wish for nothing more. Love is what gives hope, faith and happiness, priceless. You can give a girl everything, but the one who has love, wouldn't trade it for anything... or would she.
The Boy Who Has Everything, Yet Nothing to Love.
He has friends, he's an athlete. He's the jock, the star, the guy with the nice car. The posse everyone loves to hate. The laughter, the mocking, the ever present popularity. He has the friends he can't trust, followers like Jesus himself, however is hated by the greater majority. Fortunately to him, they are but insects and he has the approval of those he finds important.
Materialistically he has everything he wants, everything he needs... in his eyes he has the world at his fingertips... but really what does he have? He carries on him the hate of those he bullies, he carries the guilt of the girls he's hurt... and so much more. Finds pride in the number of drinks he consumes, girls he hurts and insults he makes. His career is of no concern, because the moment is perfect.
But really... life is no popularity contest, and he has no one to trust, no one to love and overall the guy false tears will be shed for. To fill the void of love, he fills it with false laughter, alcohol and popularity. The guy everyone wants to be, but everyone hates... funny thing is? He ends up with the Girl With Everything but Nothing to Love.
What they make
They fill each others void of nothing to love with the false image of love. Fill the void with physical love. Give each other nothing but social satisfaction and give no value to each other. Picture perfect in the eyes of others, superficial, but their voids are still there.
You may not be the girl who has everything, or the boy who has everything, but everyone knows this relationship. The one where you try to fill the void of love with someone... someone who you don't love, but you seem to think they fit the image. The attempt to be in a relationship without love, is fooling no one but yourselves. If you cannot trust yourself, who can you trust? You will be in the end with nothing. As what is truly of value you have no understanding of... as what you need you have no idea until its no longer availible.
Being the boy or the girl is not nearly as bad as being in the loveless relationship. Sometimes a few sweet words and the most beautiful gifts have no meaning, except "Help me fill the void, and lets play a game; its called Charades."
If you're the boy or the girl... maybe its time to reevaluate that role... if you are in that relationship, maybe its time to evaluate the relationship. How much do you "love" them? Really.
Everyday she wakes up to a family that pampers her. The breakfast made for her. And the day that awaits her. Her day is showered with her run ins with friends and acquaintances, and she appears to be the happiest and most popular girl in the world. More friends than fingers and toes, more admirers than body parts... what more could she want? She shops to no end, buys shoes, shirts and skirts... to fill that void inside. The luxury, the fame, the fashion and the friends, but is there love?
You can offer this girl shoes, but to her they are replaceable and plenty more at home. Offer her a meal and she will be full for but a moment. Offer her friendship and she will have one more contact in her phone book. Offer her love and she will be lost without an idea what to do and deny the one thing she doesn't have. What she doesnt realize is that is the love better than all she has...
In the material world, this girl has everything. Everything is perfect on the outside... but how does she feel on the inside? When you are the girl who yearns for "everything", think of what you're getting... think of how you will be the girl who puts a price on everything but never can find love... never values the love, because when its there, you seek the price of it.
Should you know how to love, know what love is... truly value love, feel love. Wish for nothing more. Love is what gives hope, faith and happiness, priceless. You can give a girl everything, but the one who has love, wouldn't trade it for anything... or would she.
The Boy Who Has Everything, Yet Nothing to Love.
He has friends, he's an athlete. He's the jock, the star, the guy with the nice car. The posse everyone loves to hate. The laughter, the mocking, the ever present popularity. He has the friends he can't trust, followers like Jesus himself, however is hated by the greater majority. Fortunately to him, they are but insects and he has the approval of those he finds important.
Materialistically he has everything he wants, everything he needs... in his eyes he has the world at his fingertips... but really what does he have? He carries on him the hate of those he bullies, he carries the guilt of the girls he's hurt... and so much more. Finds pride in the number of drinks he consumes, girls he hurts and insults he makes. His career is of no concern, because the moment is perfect.
But really... life is no popularity contest, and he has no one to trust, no one to love and overall the guy false tears will be shed for. To fill the void of love, he fills it with false laughter, alcohol and popularity. The guy everyone wants to be, but everyone hates... funny thing is? He ends up with the Girl With Everything but Nothing to Love.
What they make
They fill each others void of nothing to love with the false image of love. Fill the void with physical love. Give each other nothing but social satisfaction and give no value to each other. Picture perfect in the eyes of others, superficial, but their voids are still there.
You may not be the girl who has everything, or the boy who has everything, but everyone knows this relationship. The one where you try to fill the void of love with someone... someone who you don't love, but you seem to think they fit the image. The attempt to be in a relationship without love, is fooling no one but yourselves. If you cannot trust yourself, who can you trust? You will be in the end with nothing. As what is truly of value you have no understanding of... as what you need you have no idea until its no longer availible.
Being the boy or the girl is not nearly as bad as being in the loveless relationship. Sometimes a few sweet words and the most beautiful gifts have no meaning, except "Help me fill the void, and lets play a game; its called Charades."
If you're the boy or the girl... maybe its time to reevaluate that role... if you are in that relationship, maybe its time to evaluate the relationship. How much do you "love" them? Really.
Saturday, November 11, 2006
Lest we forget.
Memorial Day, Remembrance Day, Decoration Day.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
On this day, we have more to remember, more to be thankful for and more to miss than sometimes we care to take note of. One day a year designated to those who have given so much... for everyday of freedom we have, we owe it to someone, and we should be remembering every day.
Indeed, death is something that touches us all and someday takes us all... but memories is something untouchable. Memory itself is immortal. Mourn not, but remember. Be proud of the life lived, and live strong for that memory. Only the living can do something in their memory... live such that they would be proud to see you alive.
We can put blame on governments, wars, people, politics... the list goes on... however in the end, no amount of blame will return lives... what's done is done, and let us stop the blame and remember what the deaths were for... recognize their significance and allow ourselves to accept what sacrifices were made and attempt to understand why.
When least expected, death touches us all and occasionally tears us apart, but brings tears to our eyes. Sometimes death brings us together to recognize the strength of bonds made and once again reminds us of the love that binds us. Gives us the strength to admit to ourselves who those important to us are, and gives us the guilt to make a change in the way we're living.
The key to acceptance is realization that they're never gone... lives that have touched you can never take back that contact. Though physical existance has gone... no one can take those memories away. Though sometimes we feel guilty... its no ones fault. God works in mysterious ways, lessons are learned and what may be Fate is fufilled. What we can do, is keep them alive, in memories and in our thoughts. Let us not take their deaths and lives in vain. Lest we forget.
You never recognize a good thing till its gone... death is the extreme of this continium that forces us to recognize it. The gravity of this event is substantial and affects us in ways we dont understand. Excuses are often made, as questions are asked. Its all in the ways we deal with it. But in the end we learn to accept it. Maybe death is something God made for us to see that we need to cherish what we have before its too late... we never miss the water until its gone... but we can't live without it.
Even with time, don't forget. Though we allocate one day a year. Never forget. Once we forget... our memories serve us no purpose... and our hearts serve no loyalty. Everyday, take a second, breathe and be happy we're alive. It's a privelege. Life owes us no existance. We are alive to make a difference while we're alive. And when we pass... we only hope we have affected those we've been in contact with. We are all soldiers, battling what life throws us, and we all have the potential to be heroes.
Let go of those petty things... petty arguments... petty anger... you never know what maybe goodbye. Let us form alliances, friendships and marks in each others lives unerasable.
The brave die never, though they sleep in dust:
Their courage nerves a thousand living men.
~Minot J. Savage
Our courage in life is what is recognized, as we brave the front lines. In our dreams... in our hearts... let them live on. Remember the sacrifices made. In the end never stop remembering.
Open up your heart, Open up your mind.
Song of the day:
Our Lady Peace - Life
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
On this day, we have more to remember, more to be thankful for and more to miss than sometimes we care to take note of. One day a year designated to those who have given so much... for everyday of freedom we have, we owe it to someone, and we should be remembering every day.
Indeed, death is something that touches us all and someday takes us all... but memories is something untouchable. Memory itself is immortal. Mourn not, but remember. Be proud of the life lived, and live strong for that memory. Only the living can do something in their memory... live such that they would be proud to see you alive.
We can put blame on governments, wars, people, politics... the list goes on... however in the end, no amount of blame will return lives... what's done is done, and let us stop the blame and remember what the deaths were for... recognize their significance and allow ourselves to accept what sacrifices were made and attempt to understand why.
When least expected, death touches us all and occasionally tears us apart, but brings tears to our eyes. Sometimes death brings us together to recognize the strength of bonds made and once again reminds us of the love that binds us. Gives us the strength to admit to ourselves who those important to us are, and gives us the guilt to make a change in the way we're living.
The key to acceptance is realization that they're never gone... lives that have touched you can never take back that contact. Though physical existance has gone... no one can take those memories away. Though sometimes we feel guilty... its no ones fault. God works in mysterious ways, lessons are learned and what may be Fate is fufilled. What we can do, is keep them alive, in memories and in our thoughts. Let us not take their deaths and lives in vain. Lest we forget.
You never recognize a good thing till its gone... death is the extreme of this continium that forces us to recognize it. The gravity of this event is substantial and affects us in ways we dont understand. Excuses are often made, as questions are asked. Its all in the ways we deal with it. But in the end we learn to accept it. Maybe death is something God made for us to see that we need to cherish what we have before its too late... we never miss the water until its gone... but we can't live without it.
Even with time, don't forget. Though we allocate one day a year. Never forget. Once we forget... our memories serve us no purpose... and our hearts serve no loyalty. Everyday, take a second, breathe and be happy we're alive. It's a privelege. Life owes us no existance. We are alive to make a difference while we're alive. And when we pass... we only hope we have affected those we've been in contact with. We are all soldiers, battling what life throws us, and we all have the potential to be heroes.
Let go of those petty things... petty arguments... petty anger... you never know what maybe goodbye. Let us form alliances, friendships and marks in each others lives unerasable.
The brave die never, though they sleep in dust:
Their courage nerves a thousand living men.
~Minot J. Savage
Our courage in life is what is recognized, as we brave the front lines. In our dreams... in our hearts... let them live on. Remember the sacrifices made. In the end never stop remembering.
Open up your heart, Open up your mind.
Song of the day:
Our Lady Peace - Life
Sunday, October 29, 2006
[Right]Wrong Reasons
Why do you do things...? Who do you do them for...?
Who are you achieving for? To fufill your dreams or your parents'? Do you help others to boost your self esteem, or to grant others their small dreams... Do you participate in activities to take your mind off things... or to put your mind in a place that you enjoy? What are you doing and who is it for... What are your intentions?
Why do you care? Because its socially unacceptable to say that you don't, or is there actually meaning in your feelings of dislike... or approval? Don't pretend to believe, dont bend your values; you may lie to others... please others but you lie to yourself. When you can't trust yourself, who can you trust?
Why push yourself to achieve other peoples dreams when you're not happy with your life? You're just convincing yourself you want something... when really what you need is something else. If you're selfless to the extent when your living for someone else... where do you find value in yourself...? Do they value you...?
What are you working for... for the satisfaction, for the joy... for the money... It's your life, and what you accomplish is what you live with. Don't let this tell you how to live your life. Don't let materials drive your life... Don't let society control how you live.
Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you like what you see. If you can approve of what your doing... who you've become and who you will be, you're the best you can be.
Don't let the moment slip by for you to perform to achieve your goals... please yourself... not the audience... help for the sake of helping... and not for the recognition. The world is your stage... though the audience may be watching... in the end... its the directors vision that is fufilled... you decide the outcome... the audience is just there to see the results...
Be selfish when you need, and selfless when it counts... live life from the heart... because when you live for someone elses, you have no control for when your heart breaks. The threads to your heart are then tied to places beyond control... and when the threads are cut... the origins are where you trace back your pain to. When you're happy with who you are and what you're doing, when you're dissapointed... theres no one to blame but yourself... and often, its easier to forgive ourselves so keep track of your heart strings and play your own songs... When you anchor your heart to others... you never know when they'll pull away.
Live for the right reasons... and make the best of whats left of your life, when you live for the "wrong" reasons... your live becomes someone elses. Life is your vehicle, you are the driver... how you push it, modify it, what you put into it... its up to you... when your friends are put in control, and you crash... who do you blame? Sometimes its good to have a mechanic take a look, fix you up... cause you can't do it all alone... but just remember... you get yourself from Point A to Point B.
Who are you achieving for? To fufill your dreams or your parents'? Do you help others to boost your self esteem, or to grant others their small dreams... Do you participate in activities to take your mind off things... or to put your mind in a place that you enjoy? What are you doing and who is it for... What are your intentions?
Why do you care? Because its socially unacceptable to say that you don't, or is there actually meaning in your feelings of dislike... or approval? Don't pretend to believe, dont bend your values; you may lie to others... please others but you lie to yourself. When you can't trust yourself, who can you trust?
Why push yourself to achieve other peoples dreams when you're not happy with your life? You're just convincing yourself you want something... when really what you need is something else. If you're selfless to the extent when your living for someone else... where do you find value in yourself...? Do they value you...?
What are you working for... for the satisfaction, for the joy... for the money... It's your life, and what you accomplish is what you live with. Don't let this tell you how to live your life. Don't let materials drive your life... Don't let society control how you live.
Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you like what you see. If you can approve of what your doing... who you've become and who you will be, you're the best you can be.
Don't let the moment slip by for you to perform to achieve your goals... please yourself... not the audience... help for the sake of helping... and not for the recognition. The world is your stage... though the audience may be watching... in the end... its the directors vision that is fufilled... you decide the outcome... the audience is just there to see the results...
Be selfish when you need, and selfless when it counts... live life from the heart... because when you live for someone elses, you have no control for when your heart breaks. The threads to your heart are then tied to places beyond control... and when the threads are cut... the origins are where you trace back your pain to. When you're happy with who you are and what you're doing, when you're dissapointed... theres no one to blame but yourself... and often, its easier to forgive ourselves so keep track of your heart strings and play your own songs... When you anchor your heart to others... you never know when they'll pull away.
Live for the right reasons... and make the best of whats left of your life, when you live for the "wrong" reasons... your live becomes someone elses. Life is your vehicle, you are the driver... how you push it, modify it, what you put into it... its up to you... when your friends are put in control, and you crash... who do you blame? Sometimes its good to have a mechanic take a look, fix you up... cause you can't do it all alone... but just remember... you get yourself from Point A to Point B.
Sunday, October 22, 2006
Not Knowing.
Indirection, Redirection, Misdirection... how I've been misguided... rerouted... and blind to the facts of life. How you live your daily life in miniscule lies, you don't even realize. How our perceptions are skewed by the immoral value system and prioritization. How everyday we wake up and take the smallest things for granted. Day after day, minute after minute... and with each second, and each breath, we don't realize what is truly precious. The moments we have to embrance what we've been given... wasted.
Does it make it worse when you realize and regret it? Or is it worse to not know... The worst feeling of all... is being confused... lost and completely unsure where the truth is. At that point. Take a second, breathe, grasp that second and hold onto the ground you're standing on. The longer it takes for you to clutch the moment and bring yourself to reality, the longer it will take for you to stop wasting your time and realize what you need to do. Learn to understand what's happening, interpret it... and recognize your surroundings... its reactions.
In the moment, its usually appealing to do what we want at that time... not look too far... and take the present for granted... but for all the times that tell you to "Hurry up", for every ten times sometimes tells you "Let's go" listen to me just once... and relax... and lets not take the future for granted... slow things down... or when the future becomes the present, you may not be happy with how you've made it. Think of whats best for you. When you find the balance for the speed of life you should be living for your best interests... life will become ideal, past, present, future.
Unfortunately, finding this velocity isn't something that is easy, automatic or possible. It's not a physics equation, not a mathematical variable, and not something either innate, or learned. It's inevitable to go to fast... to take time for granted and its impossible to live a "perfect" life... but simply remember time is a limited thing, don't waste it, but also, realize that life isnt something to whip by, because some day, you won't be able to go back and change what you've ripped past. Life is a one way street, there aren't any U-Turns except in memories, someday, memories will be all we have.
In this day and age, we're always late for something... when life is measured by the speed of your computer, by deadlines, dates, and agendas to be fufilled, its tough to sit and reflect, but really, slow things down. Think things through... some decisions are worth making, and should be made properly. Don't try to push too fast in the world thats moving faster than you can catch up to. A daily error is wanting things to simply be over with... someday that future we've all awaited will meet us... life isn't something we can rewind, why rush to get older? Whether our future that meets us will be what we want... is really up to us, and is dependant on the past and the present... make your future what you want it to be... and just "slow things down".
Does it make it worse when you realize and regret it? Or is it worse to not know... The worst feeling of all... is being confused... lost and completely unsure where the truth is. At that point. Take a second, breathe, grasp that second and hold onto the ground you're standing on. The longer it takes for you to clutch the moment and bring yourself to reality, the longer it will take for you to stop wasting your time and realize what you need to do. Learn to understand what's happening, interpret it... and recognize your surroundings... its reactions.
In the moment, its usually appealing to do what we want at that time... not look too far... and take the present for granted... but for all the times that tell you to "Hurry up", for every ten times sometimes tells you "Let's go" listen to me just once... and relax... and lets not take the future for granted... slow things down... or when the future becomes the present, you may not be happy with how you've made it. Think of whats best for you. When you find the balance for the speed of life you should be living for your best interests... life will become ideal, past, present, future.
Unfortunately, finding this velocity isn't something that is easy, automatic or possible. It's not a physics equation, not a mathematical variable, and not something either innate, or learned. It's inevitable to go to fast... to take time for granted and its impossible to live a "perfect" life... but simply remember time is a limited thing, don't waste it, but also, realize that life isnt something to whip by, because some day, you won't be able to go back and change what you've ripped past. Life is a one way street, there aren't any U-Turns except in memories, someday, memories will be all we have.
In this day and age, we're always late for something... when life is measured by the speed of your computer, by deadlines, dates, and agendas to be fufilled, its tough to sit and reflect, but really, slow things down. Think things through... some decisions are worth making, and should be made properly. Don't try to push too fast in the world thats moving faster than you can catch up to. A daily error is wanting things to simply be over with... someday that future we've all awaited will meet us... life isn't something we can rewind, why rush to get older? Whether our future that meets us will be what we want... is really up to us, and is dependant on the past and the present... make your future what you want it to be... and just "slow things down".
Sunday, September 17, 2006
Distant
Where are you now? Where am I? Where have I been? What's changed.
What puts the distance between people, be it emotionally or physically. Geographically... being in the same city, or province, makes it feasible to visit within reason... technology allows us to interact on a fairly personal level. But what happens when the contact is severed?
Make an effort... or look and see if the other person is making an effort... it's tough sitting waiting for a call... or waiting for a text... someone to come online... etc if you really need to talk... if you need it... close the gap. If you don't want to... and they don't get to it, don't ponder it... if that person feels too distant... and nothing can close that gap, it becomes the equivilant of the Grand Canyon, and isn't going to fix itself, so forget it. Theres no time where its been easier to interact...
If neither of you make an effort to get in touch... that says a lot about your relationship... in this day and age, it doesn't take much. Then you start to feel... like you've been far away for far too long... when its really, just a click, a call, a second away... and it becomes the past... they become a piece of your past... and thats how regrets happen. Don't let it happen... because somewhere in there, you miss them, and they miss you. Theres probably a reason why they were in your life to begin with..
Song of the day:
Nickleback - Far away
Far away for far too long
What puts the distance between people, be it emotionally or physically. Geographically... being in the same city, or province, makes it feasible to visit within reason... technology allows us to interact on a fairly personal level. But what happens when the contact is severed?
Make an effort... or look and see if the other person is making an effort... it's tough sitting waiting for a call... or waiting for a text... someone to come online... etc if you really need to talk... if you need it... close the gap. If you don't want to... and they don't get to it, don't ponder it... if that person feels too distant... and nothing can close that gap, it becomes the equivilant of the Grand Canyon, and isn't going to fix itself, so forget it. Theres no time where its been easier to interact...
If neither of you make an effort to get in touch... that says a lot about your relationship... in this day and age, it doesn't take much. Then you start to feel... like you've been far away for far too long... when its really, just a click, a call, a second away... and it becomes the past... they become a piece of your past... and thats how regrets happen. Don't let it happen... because somewhere in there, you miss them, and they miss you. Theres probably a reason why they were in your life to begin with..
Song of the day:
Nickleback - Far away
Far away for far too long
Monday, September 11, 2006
Not Enough.
Have you ever felt the world and everyone around you asks too much from you? Tell you what to do, how to do them, but really... it takes too much out of you to do so? The worst part is that sometimes you know that they're right. But its the pressure thats too much. Being right isn't the concept, its respect and personal space... understanding... its not wasting time... It's realizing that conquerers conquer in a lifetime.
Why don't you just let time stop for a second. One time... just lay there... and forget the world. If it gets done now... if it gets done later... what changes? As long as it gets done. We all run at our own paces... often with breaks... occasionally with pauses and sometimes our comfortable pace is the best for us... why is it that deadlines, due dates and demands run our lives? In the corporate world, they have control.. but when it comes to our personal lives... why is it that our life begins to look like a phone bill... every second costs us something... every call, piece of communication takes time and a bit out of our pocket... and if we don't pay our dues... we'll pay for it later. Don't make your life and your friends a part of the corporate billing by the second world.
Take a look at ourselves... why the demands... why the deadlines. School be school, work be work... and these demand deadlines... but when it comes to life and decision making, take it slow. Take a second to breathe. Before we get too old and find out its too late... and give me that same priveledge, or before you know it... I'll walk out of your life too. Because I'm not something you pay your time too... I don't make demands on payment... and I don't charge interest... simple as that. Membership is free... and no commitments required.
Give everyone that oppertunity. Life is stressful... relationships shouldn't provide more of that stress. Sometimes... you just have to lower your expectations, and increase your patience quotient... because sometimes... your pace isn't someone elses... the world wasn't built in a day... we weren't born walking... and I don't wake up everyday telling myself in order to fufill my friendships I must appease you by doing such and such. When I wake up like that... remind me to tell you that I hate you... for killing what's left of me and my personality.
Song of the day:
Snow Patrol - Chasing cars
Just know that these things will never change for us at all... because I know that I don't want anyone or anything to change for me.
Why don't you just let time stop for a second. One time... just lay there... and forget the world. If it gets done now... if it gets done later... what changes? As long as it gets done. We all run at our own paces... often with breaks... occasionally with pauses and sometimes our comfortable pace is the best for us... why is it that deadlines, due dates and demands run our lives? In the corporate world, they have control.. but when it comes to our personal lives... why is it that our life begins to look like a phone bill... every second costs us something... every call, piece of communication takes time and a bit out of our pocket... and if we don't pay our dues... we'll pay for it later. Don't make your life and your friends a part of the corporate billing by the second world.
Take a look at ourselves... why the demands... why the deadlines. School be school, work be work... and these demand deadlines... but when it comes to life and decision making, take it slow. Take a second to breathe. Before we get too old and find out its too late... and give me that same priveledge, or before you know it... I'll walk out of your life too. Because I'm not something you pay your time too... I don't make demands on payment... and I don't charge interest... simple as that. Membership is free... and no commitments required.
Give everyone that oppertunity. Life is stressful... relationships shouldn't provide more of that stress. Sometimes... you just have to lower your expectations, and increase your patience quotient... because sometimes... your pace isn't someone elses... the world wasn't built in a day... we weren't born walking... and I don't wake up everyday telling myself in order to fufill my friendships I must appease you by doing such and such. When I wake up like that... remind me to tell you that I hate you... for killing what's left of me and my personality.
Song of the day:
Snow Patrol - Chasing cars
Just know that these things will never change for us at all... because I know that I don't want anyone or anything to change for me.
Friday, September 01, 2006
Grow up.
Take some responsibility for your actions. Realize what went wrong, fix it. Realize what you can change, do it. Make it your goal in life. It'll help you grow up and mature. Maybe age has no factor in that. Experience does; growing up isnt about how old you are, or the gray hairs on your head. Maturation is taking control of the situation and handling it LIKE an adult. There's children that handle some things better than adults... adulthood is just a stereotype. There are ton's of incompetant adults. Don't let yourself fall into that trap. Follow through on what you say you will. Make things happen. Troubleshoot. Make you're own decisions. Conformity is childsplay. Trends and cliques are "so last year" and lets be humane. Stereotypes, Santa Clause and Stupidity are the joys of childhood. Take your punishment as it is served; lumps in your potatoes and enjoy life. Pouting gets you no where so put a smile on tomorrow, and realize you control your life. You're not getting babied for ever. And if you're looking for sympathy in someone. Realize this; why let someone feel sorry for you; just feel sorry for yourself and make a change. Not even God can help someone who can't help himself. That's why, they're just prayers.
Sunday, August 27, 2006
Blame REdirection
Why is it that we always try to blame someone for something that goes wrong?
Blame someone, something... some unforeseen cirumstance, thats human nature. Why not just blame fate, or misfortune? Blame yourself, and prevent the next occurance. Why deter blame, make yourself feel better by making someone feel worse, or simply placing the error elsewhere? Does that make you feel like the bigger person? The better person?
Next time something goes wrong, think about what happened. How it happened, and how it could have been prevented. Often case, you realize the way thigns worked out, they couldnt have been prevented. Unavoidable, unpredictable, and no precautions could have changed it.
Like blaming a drunk driver for the death after an accident, we could blame the driver's irresponsibility, we could blame the failure for the victim to brake or have their seatbelts on or what have you, we could blame the bartender... the friends for not taking the keys, the list goes on. Resultant however, is that the victim is dead, nothing will change that... the accident has happened.
So why blame? So someone can feel better about the loss? To make someone's life miserable? Blame is a horrible thing... innocent until proven guilty. With anything as simple as who spilt the juice, to an impaired driving death. If you are at fault... then take your punishment... if you pulled the short straw and something unpredicatble happened. Leave it to fate... don't find excuses and outs to what went wrong... because that makes life that much more complicated.
The one thing I ask is, blame me no more. For what I've done, for what may happen. It's true we can forgive, sometimes unlikely for us to forget. And of course as much as we'd like to believe that our sins are forgiven and etc. We must take what we are given and understand consequences for our actions. Every action is met with an equal reaction. I'm prepared to take mine, but not yours.
Blame someone, something... some unforeseen cirumstance, thats human nature. Why not just blame fate, or misfortune? Blame yourself, and prevent the next occurance. Why deter blame, make yourself feel better by making someone feel worse, or simply placing the error elsewhere? Does that make you feel like the bigger person? The better person?
Next time something goes wrong, think about what happened. How it happened, and how it could have been prevented. Often case, you realize the way thigns worked out, they couldnt have been prevented. Unavoidable, unpredictable, and no precautions could have changed it.
Like blaming a drunk driver for the death after an accident, we could blame the driver's irresponsibility, we could blame the failure for the victim to brake or have their seatbelts on or what have you, we could blame the bartender... the friends for not taking the keys, the list goes on. Resultant however, is that the victim is dead, nothing will change that... the accident has happened.
So why blame? So someone can feel better about the loss? To make someone's life miserable? Blame is a horrible thing... innocent until proven guilty. With anything as simple as who spilt the juice, to an impaired driving death. If you are at fault... then take your punishment... if you pulled the short straw and something unpredicatble happened. Leave it to fate... don't find excuses and outs to what went wrong... because that makes life that much more complicated.
The one thing I ask is, blame me no more. For what I've done, for what may happen. It's true we can forgive, sometimes unlikely for us to forget. And of course as much as we'd like to believe that our sins are forgiven and etc. We must take what we are given and understand consequences for our actions. Every action is met with an equal reaction. I'm prepared to take mine, but not yours.
Thursday, August 24, 2006
Age.
What changes between 8 and 28? I mean really what changes?
I tell 8 year olds things like "Share", or "Be responsible", even things like "Be nice" and often case they listen. But what happens as we get older. As we learn to stray from that. Become greedy, inconsiderate and no longer aim to please. We simply aim for personal pleasure. Even a child, understands the most basic rules of being a human. But, these get neglected as we grow old. And parents wonder; how does my child turn out like that? Little do they realize; they're not often the best example.
When we wonder what's happening to our youth, we need to look at ourselves, and see what values we're really promoting. And think about whether or not we practice what we preach.
What really changes? Is it honestly human nature for us to be selfish, inconsiderate and absolutely rude? As we grow up, I think we're deteriorating. Why that is... is up to you yourself to figure out, and ensure you're making for a better next generation.
I tell 8 year olds things like "Share", or "Be responsible", even things like "Be nice" and often case they listen. But what happens as we get older. As we learn to stray from that. Become greedy, inconsiderate and no longer aim to please. We simply aim for personal pleasure. Even a child, understands the most basic rules of being a human. But, these get neglected as we grow old. And parents wonder; how does my child turn out like that? Little do they realize; they're not often the best example.
When we wonder what's happening to our youth, we need to look at ourselves, and see what values we're really promoting. And think about whether or not we practice what we preach.
What really changes? Is it honestly human nature for us to be selfish, inconsiderate and absolutely rude? As we grow up, I think we're deteriorating. Why that is... is up to you yourself to figure out, and ensure you're making for a better next generation.
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