Why is it that we always try to blame someone for something that goes wrong?
Blame someone, something... some unforeseen cirumstance, thats human nature. Why not just blame fate, or misfortune? Blame yourself, and prevent the next occurance. Why deter blame, make yourself feel better by making someone feel worse, or simply placing the error elsewhere? Does that make you feel like the bigger person? The better person?
Next time something goes wrong, think about what happened. How it happened, and how it could have been prevented. Often case, you realize the way thigns worked out, they couldnt have been prevented. Unavoidable, unpredictable, and no precautions could have changed it.
Like blaming a drunk driver for the death after an accident, we could blame the driver's irresponsibility, we could blame the failure for the victim to brake or have their seatbelts on or what have you, we could blame the bartender... the friends for not taking the keys, the list goes on. Resultant however, is that the victim is dead, nothing will change that... the accident has happened.
So why blame? So someone can feel better about the loss? To make someone's life miserable? Blame is a horrible thing... innocent until proven guilty. With anything as simple as who spilt the juice, to an impaired driving death. If you are at fault... then take your punishment... if you pulled the short straw and something unpredicatble happened. Leave it to fate... don't find excuses and outs to what went wrong... because that makes life that much more complicated.
The one thing I ask is, blame me no more. For what I've done, for what may happen. It's true we can forgive, sometimes unlikely for us to forget. And of course as much as we'd like to believe that our sins are forgiven and etc. We must take what we are given and understand consequences for our actions. Every action is met with an equal reaction. I'm prepared to take mine, but not yours.
Sunday, August 27, 2006
Thursday, August 24, 2006
Age.
What changes between 8 and 28? I mean really what changes?
I tell 8 year olds things like "Share", or "Be responsible", even things like "Be nice" and often case they listen. But what happens as we get older. As we learn to stray from that. Become greedy, inconsiderate and no longer aim to please. We simply aim for personal pleasure. Even a child, understands the most basic rules of being a human. But, these get neglected as we grow old. And parents wonder; how does my child turn out like that? Little do they realize; they're not often the best example.
When we wonder what's happening to our youth, we need to look at ourselves, and see what values we're really promoting. And think about whether or not we practice what we preach.
What really changes? Is it honestly human nature for us to be selfish, inconsiderate and absolutely rude? As we grow up, I think we're deteriorating. Why that is... is up to you yourself to figure out, and ensure you're making for a better next generation.
I tell 8 year olds things like "Share", or "Be responsible", even things like "Be nice" and often case they listen. But what happens as we get older. As we learn to stray from that. Become greedy, inconsiderate and no longer aim to please. We simply aim for personal pleasure. Even a child, understands the most basic rules of being a human. But, these get neglected as we grow old. And parents wonder; how does my child turn out like that? Little do they realize; they're not often the best example.
When we wonder what's happening to our youth, we need to look at ourselves, and see what values we're really promoting. And think about whether or not we practice what we preach.
What really changes? Is it honestly human nature for us to be selfish, inconsiderate and absolutely rude? As we grow up, I think we're deteriorating. Why that is... is up to you yourself to figure out, and ensure you're making for a better next generation.
Tuesday, August 22, 2006
[IN]dividualism
Individualism. At what point do we say individualism is conforming? Developing groups, cliques with similar fashion sense, humor and possibly ideals. At what point do we say that its no longer original but simply a trend?
Do something original and recognize the individualism around you. Don't look and see whats different, look to see whats changed. What makes you who you are, and what makes every person around you who they are. They are a son, a daughter, a brother, sister, mother, father, someone's loved one. In every vehicle, theres someone in there with someone to see, somewhere to be. Open our eyes to humanity. Selfishness is the last thing we need. Selflessness is a feature found in the most humane gods. Selfishness, found in mortals and demi-gods.
Our conformist trends make what's IN individualistic, when really what's IN is measured by our purchasing power, our consumer market, our structured society. Break free of that once in a while and be truly different. Be a true individual and bring back the common threads of humanity. Show what it means to care about more than brand names. Show what it means to love more than diamonds. Show what it means to share more than your french fries. Show respect for your fellow man. Show responsibility for our actions. Show me how you venture from the beaten path of being a horrible "individual". Show me what it truly means to be human, what it means to have a heart, a soul and the ability to be humane. What differentiates us from the animals? Other than fashion sense.
Do something original and recognize the individualism around you. Don't look and see whats different, look to see whats changed. What makes you who you are, and what makes every person around you who they are. They are a son, a daughter, a brother, sister, mother, father, someone's loved one. In every vehicle, theres someone in there with someone to see, somewhere to be. Open our eyes to humanity. Selfishness is the last thing we need. Selflessness is a feature found in the most humane gods. Selfishness, found in mortals and demi-gods.
Our conformist trends make what's IN individualistic, when really what's IN is measured by our purchasing power, our consumer market, our structured society. Break free of that once in a while and be truly different. Be a true individual and bring back the common threads of humanity. Show what it means to care about more than brand names. Show what it means to love more than diamonds. Show what it means to share more than your french fries. Show respect for your fellow man. Show responsibility for our actions. Show me how you venture from the beaten path of being a horrible "individual". Show me what it truly means to be human, what it means to have a heart, a soul and the ability to be humane. What differentiates us from the animals? Other than fashion sense.
Saturday, August 19, 2006
Torn -
Torn into pieces, caught inbetween, often irrepairable. One of the worst feelings. Follow your heart, follow your mind... follow your dreams. But really... when they conflict where do you go?
Like the line "Theres the one you love, and the one you marry, lets just hope its the same person". How would it feel living your life, having regret it every day... and wishing you would have picked the alternative. What is the solution?
What decides for you? Who decides for you? In the end, its you. Its not right, or wrong, its right now. Live for the now and first and then the then; but ensure your now leads to a then. Don't pick the right now that makes you miserable then... just because its a right now doesnt mean it has to be dumb. The worst thing in life is regret. When torn think of the long run... but think of what it means to be torn.
To separate forcefully; wrench
To divide or disrupt: was torn between opposing choices
Do you feel your heart wrench, does your sleep get disrupted... your mind divided...?
It could mean right now, or it could mean right. Try to make things right, because when its left behind... you may never make it back. Justify it at the moment and keep justifying it, when you find your justification is convincing yourself, its not worth it... because a part of you knows is wrong. Weigh out the positives, weigh out the consequences... but when done, its done.
As Donnie Brasco puts it "When they send for you, you go in alive, you come out dead, and it's your best friend that does it." so make the right choices, for the right reasons and the right people, and know what makes things worth it... because sometimes, expectations just lead up to dissapointments. On the same note, dont get used to disspointing or dissapointment. It just sets up for a world of hurt. Standards are just benchmarks, setting them lower makes them easier to get surpassed... but as well dont set your expectations too low... or anything will do. Strive for excellence.
Like the line "Theres the one you love, and the one you marry, lets just hope its the same person". How would it feel living your life, having regret it every day... and wishing you would have picked the alternative. What is the solution?
What decides for you? Who decides for you? In the end, its you. Its not right, or wrong, its right now. Live for the now and first and then the then; but ensure your now leads to a then. Don't pick the right now that makes you miserable then... just because its a right now doesnt mean it has to be dumb. The worst thing in life is regret. When torn think of the long run... but think of what it means to be torn.
To separate forcefully; wrench
To divide or disrupt: was torn between opposing choices
Do you feel your heart wrench, does your sleep get disrupted... your mind divided...?
It could mean right now, or it could mean right. Try to make things right, because when its left behind... you may never make it back. Justify it at the moment and keep justifying it, when you find your justification is convincing yourself, its not worth it... because a part of you knows is wrong. Weigh out the positives, weigh out the consequences... but when done, its done.
As Donnie Brasco puts it "When they send for you, you go in alive, you come out dead, and it's your best friend that does it." so make the right choices, for the right reasons and the right people, and know what makes things worth it... because sometimes, expectations just lead up to dissapointments. On the same note, dont get used to disspointing or dissapointment. It just sets up for a world of hurt. Standards are just benchmarks, setting them lower makes them easier to get surpassed... but as well dont set your expectations too low... or anything will do. Strive for excellence.
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
Gift.
Have you ever woken up realizing it's a gift to do so? That the present is one not to be taken for granted. That a day is 24 hours to cherish? Whoever came up with "tomorrow" was an idiot, because its just another thing to think about to waste today.
Tomorrow is defined as
to·mor·row ( P ) Pronunciation Key (t-môr, -mr)
n.
The day following today.
The future.
How idiotic. You sleep today, and when you wake up its tomorrow, but its actually today... so in essence, tomorrow never comes, you can never actually see it... so its just a waste of time. If we never expected a tomorrow, or put off till tomorrow... everything would be so much more wonderful.
Tomorrow is simply an excuse to neglect the present, don't do that and expect a tomorrow. This world doesn't owe us an existance, just like it doesn't owe us a future or a tomorrow. It would be in our best interest to build a better tomorrow, but waiting endlessly, for things that will never come, for things to "get better" is foolish. Do something with today, to change the next "today", because tomorrow doesn't exist.
Tomorrow is defined as
to·mor·row ( P ) Pronunciation Key (t-môr, -mr)
n.
The day following today.
The future.
How idiotic. You sleep today, and when you wake up its tomorrow, but its actually today... so in essence, tomorrow never comes, you can never actually see it... so its just a waste of time. If we never expected a tomorrow, or put off till tomorrow... everything would be so much more wonderful.
Tomorrow is simply an excuse to neglect the present, don't do that and expect a tomorrow. This world doesn't owe us an existance, just like it doesn't owe us a future or a tomorrow. It would be in our best interest to build a better tomorrow, but waiting endlessly, for things that will never come, for things to "get better" is foolish. Do something with today, to change the next "today", because tomorrow doesn't exist.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006
Upbringing...
It's been a long time since the last blog, and it's been a long summer. A lot has changed, a lot has stayed the same. A million lessons have been learned, and hopefully at least a thousand stay with me for a lifetime. Memories made, and memories some I wish to be forgotten, but all valuable. Today however, I'd like to touch on everything that makes us who we are today... just upbringing...
In Asia I heard a phrase. Ponder it. "You can feed a body... raise the body... but you can't feed or raise a soul. You can't feed or raise a mind" As much as we like to try as adults to influence to "bring up" youth, we can attempt to... but in the end, the mind is personally molded. Therefore everyone is their own person... let individuality shine. Let who they are be who they are... and don't bother with changing it, change comes from within. Don't let it get to you. Sometimes, it doesn't matter what guidance was or was not present. It's the person. And their personality.
No matter how hard you try to implement your ideologies on another, they are their own soul... their own mind... Feed their body... you can change them physically... but otherwise. You're out of luck. Individuality thats what sets us apart.
Maybe tomorrow I'll open the doors to tomorrow. "Today is a gift, thats why it's called the present"
In Asia I heard a phrase. Ponder it. "You can feed a body... raise the body... but you can't feed or raise a soul. You can't feed or raise a mind" As much as we like to try as adults to influence to "bring up" youth, we can attempt to... but in the end, the mind is personally molded. Therefore everyone is their own person... let individuality shine. Let who they are be who they are... and don't bother with changing it, change comes from within. Don't let it get to you. Sometimes, it doesn't matter what guidance was or was not present. It's the person. And their personality.
No matter how hard you try to implement your ideologies on another, they are their own soul... their own mind... Feed their body... you can change them physically... but otherwise. You're out of luck. Individuality thats what sets us apart.
Maybe tomorrow I'll open the doors to tomorrow. "Today is a gift, thats why it's called the present"
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